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Eagle in the sky

When we are at our peak of success or gaining success on the ladder of success, we seldom have real friends around us. Many people shall become our friends with a mask of prejudice and we blindly believe them and these people win our trust. However, businessperson, professionals, employees, artists and others should know that when to keep distance with new friends while on the road to success.

Jealousy is the first reason that these new friends will try to ruin everything for us behind our back. It’s always better to guard our tongue and not to divulge much professional or personal information with these new friends. They will do everything to get to know us, by initially revealing their own personal matters, so that in return we might also share our piece of personal information. Its better that we always keep our personal and professional information discreet from them.

Jealousy as per me is a very special form of emotional anxiety, which occurs due to lack of security and mostly would combine components of anger and fear resulting to hatred. I would not exclude envy as a part of jealousy these are like the branches of the same tree when it comes to have grudge about someone else more powerful, successful and happy than oneself.

Many successful people have a natural defense in keeping themselves discreet and at distance than others and therefore, most are always focused on their on career path and don’t get distracted with affairs and scandals created by the jealous people around. Apparently, some people on the successful path develop new friends and develop new problems. It only requires one mistake to ruin ones success path and get back to square one.

I asked one of the successful businessman in India, “What was his key to success and maintaining it, in this competitive world?”. He replied to me ” I don’t meet new people and don’t make friends with them, my relation is purely professional with them and point to point, I don’t discuss religion, politics, or any other common topics of discussion, I keep my discussions short, sweet, with smiles and try to conclude it as soon as possible”.

I met with this same person after 5 years in India and he was more successful and had wider smile on his face as compared to first time I saw him. I asked him again the same question. “What makes you maintain your success and climb higher ? ” and he replied to me ” I don’t make new friends, only new business associates and don’t discuss anything which is off topic and never divulge my personal information with them, my associates know that I am short on time when I meet them so they try to quickly make their point and get things done as they don’t want to miss the deals with me. My family members are my best friends, I give lots of time to my wife, mother, children and not to TV or internet.”

I thought that this businessman makes real sense and we should be short and sweet in our talks, especially when we are at the peak or on our success ladder. The haters would just want to know our weak points or try to do everything to annoy us and make an error. Therefore, why not guard ourselves and be above all like the eagle in the sky.


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Nothing sells better than sex and so does Sunny Leone in India. She might be a pornstar / actress according to most, but Indian politicians and film industry has made the best use of the material known as “Sunny Leone”. Today on the Hindu religious festival of Gokulashtami, some political groups have invited Sunny Leone as the chief guest for Dahi Handi celebrations. Security has been beefed up in Pune due to this, but the police cant stop such activities as its not a crime to call a porn-star for such celebrations and as a chief guest.

Last year Sunny Leone made headlines in India by being a guest for the reality show of Bigg Boss, since then she has been the highest goggled person in India. Prior to that no one new who is Sunny Leone in India, except for few who saw her videos on porntubes.

After her steamy role in Jism-2, she has redefined the role of Indian actress and will for sure boost sales of erotic cinema in India and also motivate several young girls to expose skin.

Indian culture is very extreme. We passed by the age of Kamasutra and Khajurao and also on the other hand want woman to be under veils and press social taboo. We allow dance bars and red light areas to flourish but at the same time criticize a person or Sunny Leone. If one opens Mid-day newspaper and browse through the classified area they can find many advertisements displayed by prostitutes for selling sex. We are not very clear on what we want to do in life and therefore, press time on criticizing on society. We are all become a moral policemen , but before going to bed I am sure most will Google Sunny Leone and watch her porn videos.

Sunny Leone can be a passing fad or a future role model for Indian girls, but it all depends upon the individuals and their parents on the up bringing and on how they accept Sunny Leone. There are lots of evil elements in our society that would spoil our kids, well Sunny is the least and could be one leading factor in breaking the sexual taboo or even to motivate young girls to pursue porn industry as a career. It upto us to decide what we want to follow and what we want to become. I like porn and I like Sunny Leone.

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India might be gaining a status of quickly becoming an economic superpower, but the government and the society has been ignoring the shallow fact of atrocities met on woman in India. Although Britishers and leaders like Mahatma Gandhi had gained certain level of success in getting rid of religious codes on Hindu woman, especially the rituals of Sati, child marriage and many such uncivilized codes against the woman. Mahatma Gandhi did his best to fight the freedom struggle against the British Empire, but when it came to womans right he was together with the Britishers in eradicating such cruel dogmas met on woman. However, even in 2011 and in most parts of India, woman have no rights and live with their faces veiled or covered, they are not allowed to work, they don’t have any rights to make decisions on their own. She can get lynched for just having a love affair with a boy who is not of same cast. The barbarianism against woman still exists in most parts even today.

Woman in India throughout last 2000 years have been living a life of slaves, they have been sold to the groom like a cattle, they have been denied education, they never had equal status in society, the male dominated society put several restrictions against them which can only equal to Islamic horrors against woman in middle east. Some girls are married at the age of three and she got pregnant by the age of thirteen and if she gave birth to a girl, she would face torture by her in-laws or even killed. Whenever a girl is born in a Hindu family, according to their scriptures she is known to bring wealth and prosperity, well in stark reality in the rural areas or perhaps even in some cities, if a girl is born, she would be called as “bad luck”.

To have a daughter in a middle class or lower class family, it was like a burden, a curse and  a financial task. Parents have to spend their entire savings to get the girl married. “Dowry” is like an amount paid to the grooms family by the brides parents so that the girl would get at least some kind of happiness at her in-laws house. The amount of happiness always depended upon the amount of Dowry paid to the in-laws. In some cases the deliberate demand of dowry will not end just at the intersection of marriage, but will continue to haunt the bride’s family throughout the life. The demands will continue, possibly every month or every six months, this is the price for happiness. If the brides family wishes their daughter to be happy at her in-laws, than keeping their demands fulfilled was very important. Many girls have been burnt alive by their in-laws due to financial demands not met by the girl’s family. Although, the government has made dowry deaths punishable by law, most part of India has no need to follow such laws as the law can be easily twisted.

Its ill fate for a girl to be born as girl in India. Especially in Hindu and more or less even in Muslim families. A girl is a curse for parents. I would only desire that the Indian society wakes up against these crimes on woman, not to forget even the person who gave birth is a woman. The government has to abolish many religious idiosyncracies that still prevail in the society and which demeans the presence of woman. In this century when, India speaks about Nuclear age, space age, economic show down, i feel strongly that the people of India or at least the educated and civilised people of India take this cause and fight to eradicate this social evil.

Please find the excerpts of some very important latest news about girls in India :-

In this photo taken Wednesday, April 13, 2011, one year and 9-month-old Sania cries as she is weighed only 5 kilograms (11 pounds) on a scale after ea AP – In this photo taken Wednesday, April 13, 2011, one year and 9-month-old Sania cries as she is weighed …
By MUNEEZA NAQVI, Associated Press Muneeza Naqvi, Associated Press – Wed May 4, 4:51 pm ET
MORENA, India – The room is large and airy, the stone floors clean and cool — a welcome respite from the afternoon sun. Until your eyes take in the horror that it holds. Ten severely malnourished children — nine of them girls.
The starving girls in this hospital ward include a 21-month-old with arms and legs the size of twigs and an emaciated 1-year-old with huge, vacant eyes. Without urgent medical care, most will not live to see their next birthday.
They point to a painful reality revealed in India’s most recent census: Despite a booming economy and big cities full of luxury cars and glittering malls, the country is failing its girls.
Early results show India has 914 girls under age 6 for every 1,000 boys. A decade ago, many were horrified when the ratio was 927 to 1,000.
The discrimination happens through abortions of female fetuses and sheer neglect of young girls, despite years of high-profile campaigns to address the issue. So serious is the problem that it’s illegal for medical personnel to reveal the gender of an unborn fetus, although evidence suggests the ban is widely circumvented.
“My mother-in-law says a boy is necessary,” says Sanju, holding her severely malnourished 9-month-old daughter in her lap in the hospital. The woman, who goes by one name, doesn’t admit to deliberately starving the girl but only shrugs her own thin shoulders when asked why her daughter is so sick.
She will try again for a son in a year or two, she says.
Part of the reason Indians favor sons is the enormous expense in marrying off girls. Families often go into debt arranging marriages and paying elaborate dowries. A boy, on the other hand, will one day bring home a bride and dowry. Hindu custom also dictates that only sons can light their parents’ funeral pyres.
But it’s not simply that girls are more expensive for impoverished families. The census data shows that the worst offenders are the relatively wealthy northern states of Punjab and Haryana.
In Morena, a sun-baked, largely rural district in the heart of India, the numbers are especially grim. This census showed that only 825 girls for every 1,000 boys in the district made it to their sixth birthdays, down from an already troubling 829 a decade ago.
Though abortion is allowed in India, the country banned revealing the gender of unborn fetuses in 1994 in an attempt to halt sex-selective abortions. Every few years, federal and state governments announce new incentives — from free meals to free education — to encourage people to take care of their girls.
In Morena, a Madhya Pradesh state government program offers poor families with one or two daughters a few thousand rupees (a few hundred dollars) for every few years of schooling, and more than 100,000 rupees ($2,250) when they graduate high school.
But while a handful of Indian women have attained some of the highest positions in politics and business — from late Prime Minister Indira Gandhi to Pepsi CEO Indra Nooyi — a deep-rooted cultural preference for sons remains.
Even the government has accepted that it has failed to save millions of little girls.
“Whatever measures that have been put in over the last 40 years have not had any impact,” India’s Home Secretary G.K. Pillai said last month when announcing the census numbers.
In Morena’s homes, villages, schools and hospitals lie some of the answers to why the country keeps losing girls.
In the district hospital’s maternity ward, a wrinkled old woman walks out holding a just-born girl wrapped in a dirty rag like an unwelcome present. Munni, who uses only one name, is clearly unhappy. Her daughter-in-law has just given birth to her sixth girl in 12 years of marriage.
Will the daughter-in-law go through another pregnancy?”Everyone wants boys. A boy takes care of you in your old age,” Munni says.

As a mother-in-law, Munni will likely have enormous control over her son’s wife, influencing how many children she has and nudging or bullying her to bear a son.

According to the current CIA “World Factbook,” the United States has a birth ratio of 955 girls per 1,000 boys. In China, where families with a strong preference for boys sometimes resort to aborting their baby girls, there was a birth ratio of 885 girls per 1,000 boys.

District hospital head R.C. Bandil said his facility strictly obeys the law against using sonograms to reveal the gender of a fetus, adding that the sex ratio at birth there is as high as 940-945 girls per 1,000 boys.

Bandil said that for ages 6 and under, however, the ratio fell to 825 girls per 1,000 boys.

Part of the reason lies in the hospital’s malnutrition ward.

“Women cry when they have girls,” nurse Lalitha Gujar says as she spoons powdered coconut, peanuts and sesame seeds into bowls of fortified milk to nourish the tiny children.

All nine mothers of the sickly infant girls say they want sons — to look after them when they get old, because their sisters-in-law have more sons, because their mothers-in-law demand male children.

“If a woman has a boy, for a month she will be looked after. If she has a girl, she’ll be back in the fields in three days,” says Sudha Misra, a local social worker.

An exhausted mother who faces neglect, poor nutrition and blame for producing a daughter is likely to pass on that neglect, social workers say. For an infant, that can mean the difference between life and death.

“A malnourished child will get sick and the chances of death are very high,” Bandil says.

Males get first priority. “First the husband is seated and fed, then the brothers and then whatever is left is fed to the girls,” says Bandil. “If there are two mangoes in the house, first the boy will get to eat.”

For the very poor, the pressures to bear sons result in mistreatment of both the baby girl and mother. And rich women are not immune to this mistreatment if they fail to bear male children.

For those with money, it’s often about being able to locate a radiologist who, for a cost, will break the law and reveal the sex of the fetus, or being able to fly abroad for such tests.

A 2007 study by the rights group ActionAid India found that gender ratios were worse in urban areas, and that sex-selective abortions were more common among wealthier and higher-caste people who could afford ways to learn the gender of fetuses.

The law is not enough to combat “a society that values boys over girls,” says Ravinder Kaur, a professor of sociology at New Delhi’s Indian Institute of Technology.

“Laws are good because they may act as a deterrent” she says, but sex-selective abortions continue underground because “people find more devious ways.”

By Tan Ee Lyn Tan Ee Lyn – Tue May 24, 6:34 am ET
HONG KONG (Reuters) – Up to 12 million girls were aborted over the last three decades in India by parents that tended to be richer and more educated, a large study in India found, and researchers warned that the figure could rise with falling fertility rates.
The missing daughters occurred mostly in families which already had a first born daughter. Although the preference for boys runs across Indian society, the abortions were more likely to be carried out by educated parents who were aware of ultrasound technology and who could afford abortions.
“The number of girls being aborted is increasing and may have reached 12 million with the lower estimate of 4 million over the last three decades,” said lead author Professor Prabhat Jha at the Center for Global Health Research in Toronto, Canada.
“The logic is families are saying if Nature gives us a first boy, then we don’t do anything. But if Nature gives a first girl then perhaps we would consider ultrasound testing and selective abortion for the subsequent children,” he told Reuters in a telephone interview on Tuesday.
Jha said the preference for boys in Indian society remains firmly in place and the reason why abortions of female fetuses were occurring more among richer and educated parents was because they could afford to do so.
“The preference for boys doesn’t differ between rich and poor, it is similar. But the means to ensure a boy is greater among the educated and the rich,” Jha said.
Jha and his colleagues, who published their study in The Lancet, said abortion of girls in India was different from the situation in China, where a one-child policy results in even abortions of the first girl.
“In India, we don’t see that yet and there is no required one-child policy. But the concern is that if urban women decide they only want one child, then this practice may spread from second or third child to the first, so this is a future risk that we have identified,” Jha said.
Jha’s team analyzed data from three national health surveys conducted over different time periods from 1992 to 2006, where over 300,000 mothers between the ages of 15 to 49 were interviewed for their birth history.
The researchers also analyzed data of three cohorts of children born from 1990 to 2005.
They found the sex ratio for the second child in homes where the first born was a girl fell to 836 girls for every 1,000 boys in 2005, from 906 to every 1,000 boys in 1990.
“There were 4 million to 12 million selective abortions from 1980 to 2010 and just in the last decade, about 3 to 6 million, so the problem is increasing,” Jha said.
India enacted a law in 1996 to prevent the use of scanning for prenatal sex determination and selective abortion of girls but Jha said it was very difficult to enforce because of a huge unregulated private medical practice.
“Until the government brings health reforms in place and brings doctors into a publicly financed accountable system, it’s difficult to go that route,” he said.
(Reporting by Tan Ee Lyn; Editing by Miral Fahmy)

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( This post is especially for that special person who has walked last few years of her life as Christian and has heard me preach her and discuss about Bible for several hours and nights after nights, despite of temptations her affinity towards Jesus has always been monumental. Admittingly, I have turned away from Jesus Christ, but believe in God as supreme being, master, creator or whatever we might look upon him or her. I know there is God. Well I am writing this post as my last note to that extraordinary person if she reads this or not….but I know I have never betrayed that person and always have that special place in my heart & soul. No matter what she does or what she intends to do, she will always be remembered in my prayers and I pray that she walks her life as true Christian and ceases all her indecorous demeanor. You can place anyone above me but dont lie to yourself and dont place anyone above God – From the EVIL MAN)

Man’s greatest honour and privilege is to do the will of God. This was what the Lord Jesus taught His disciples. He once said that only those who did His Father’s will would enter the kingdom of Heaven (Matt. 7:21). He also said that His true brothers and sisters were those who did the will of God (Matt. 12:50).

This emphasis was duly passed on by the apostles to their generation. Peter declared that God sets men free from sin so that they can do His will (1 Pet. 4:1,2). Paul asserted that believers are created anew in Christ Jesus so that they can walk in a path God has already mapped out for them. He therefore exhorted the Ephesian Christians not to be foolish, but to understand what the will of the Lord was for their lives (Eph. 2:10; 5:17). He prayed for the Colossian Christians that they might be filled with the knowledge of God’s will. He told them that his co-worker Epaphras was also praying for them that they might fulfill all the will of God (Col. 1:9; 4:12). The apostle John taught that only those who did the will of God would abide forever (1 John 2:17).

This emphasis is unfortunately rare in our day and generation. Hence the shallowness and powerlessness of the average believer today. Men are urged to come to Jesus merely to receive forgiveness. In apostolic times, people were told that forgiveness of sins was to be only a prelude to a life dedicated to the fulfillment of the whole will of God.

Acts 13:22 seems to imply that David was called “a man after God’s own heart” because he desired to do the will of God alone. David himself tells us elsewhere that he delighted in doing God’s will (Psa. 4:8). He was not a perfect man. He committed many sins, some very serious ones, for which God had to punish him severely. Yet God forgave him and found pleasure in him because basically David wanted to do all of God’s will. This encourages us to believe that in spite of all our imperfections, we too can be men and women after God’s own heart – if only our hearts are set on doing His will.

The New Testament urges believers to walk as Jesus walked, following His example. The guiding principle of Jesus’ entire life and ministry was to do the will of His Father. He never moved until His Father told Him to. And when He did move, neither the threats of His enemies nor the pleadings of His friends could stop Him from doing what His Father required of Him. His daily food was to fulfill His Father’s will (John 4:34). As men crave for food to nourish their bodies, He craved to do the will of the One Who had sent Him.

Every believer should have a similar hunger to fulfill all the will of God. How easy it is to pray, “Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven,” and then to do just as we please, without seeking God’s guidance in our daily lives.

God’s plan is the best

It is the height of folly not to seek God’s guidance. If you were alone in the middle of a thick forest on a pitch dark night, not knowing which way to turn, you would be glad to have with you someone who knew every inch of the forest and whom you could trust fully. You would soon follow without question whatever way he took. It would be foolish to ignore his advice and to move on your own into that dark and dense forest, full of hidden dangers. Yet many believers do just that sort of thing.

The future that lies before us is darker than anything on earth could possibly be. We can see nothing ahead. Yet we have to move forward.

We sometimes come to crossroads in our lives, where we have to make decisions with far-reaching consequences. Decisions such as the choice of a career and a life-partner affect our entire future. How are we to decide at such times? We know nothing of the dangers and the hidden pitfalls along each path. We know nothing of the snares Satan has laid for us. And yet – we have to decide which path to take.

It would therefore be not only desirable but necessary for us to have someone beside us at such times whom we can trust fully, who knows the entire future. In the Lord Jesus Christ, we have just such a Person, and He is more than eager to guide us along the safest and best path.

The Bible teaches that God has a specific plan for each of our lives (Eph. 2:10). He has planned a career for us, chosen a life-partner for us and even planned where we should live and what we should do each day. In every case, His choice must be the best, for He knows us so well and He takes every factor into consideration. It is wisest then to seek His will in all matters – major as well as minor.

It is not only foolish but dangerous to follow the reasoning of our limited intellects and the dictates of our emotions alone. Unless we are gripped by the conviction that God’s plan is indeed the best, we are not likely to be in earnest about seeking it.

Many have made shipwreck of their lives by failing to seek the will of God right from their youth. It is indeed “good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth” (Lam. 3:27). In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus invites us to take His yoke upon us. What does it mean to take the yoke? Oxen that are used to plough fields are kept together by a yoke upon their necks. When a new ox is to be trained to plough, it is yoked together with an experienced ox. The new one is thus compelled to walk in the same direction and at the same speed as the older ox.

This is what it means to take the yoke of Jesus upon us. We shall have to walk with Jesus in the path that pleases Him, never rushing ahead to do anything without His leading, nor lagging behind when He calls to some new step of obedience. Few understand this meaning of the yoke. Fewer still are willing to accept it. The ox is forced by its owner to take the yoke upon its neck. But Jesus invites us. There is no compulsion here. How foolish we are to reject this invitation! We would rather take the heavy yoke of our own self-will with its accompanying frustrations, defeats, and regrets, than the light yoke of Jesus that brings true liberty and deep rest!

“Come to Me and I will give you rest – all of you who work so hard beneath a heavy yoke. Wear My yoke…..and let Me teach you (as the older ox teaches the inexperienced one)….and you shall find rest for your souls; for I give you only light burdens” (Matt. 11:28-30-TLB).

We read of Enoch that he “walked with God” (Gen. 5:22) – i.e., he did not rush ahead nor lag behind, but walked in God’s appointed path as one under the yoke – for three hundred years. As a result, God testified that He was pleased with Enoch’s life (Heb. 11:5). This is the only way that we please God – by living and moving under His yoke, in His perfect will. Only thus shall we be able to stand before Him without regret when He comes again.

Missing God’s Plan

It is possible for a believer to miss God’s perfect will for his life. Saul was chosen by God to be king over Israel, but eventually as a result of his impatience and disobedience, God had to reject him. True, he remained on the throne for some years more, but he had missed God’s will for his life. Solomon is another example. He pleased God in this earlier years, but fell away later through marrying heathen women.

Twice in the New Testament we are exhorted to take a warning from the example of the Israelites who perished in the wilderness. God’s perfect will for them was that they should enter Canaan. But all except two of them missed God’s best through unbelief and disobedience (1 Cor. 10:1-12; Heb. 3:7-14). Many believers have similarly missed God’s perfect plan for their lives through disobedience and compromise – often in marriage or in the choice of a career.

G Christian Weiss in his book, `The Perfect Will of God’, tells of a teacher in a Bible School who told his students one day, “I have lived most of my life on God’s second best”. God had called him to be a missionary in his younger days, but he had turned aside from that calling as a result of marriage. He then began a selfish business life, working in a bank, with the primary purpose of making money. God continued to speak to him for a number of years, but he refused to yield. One day his little child had a fall from a chair and died. This drove him to his knees, and after a whole night spent in tears before God, he put his life into God’s hands completely. It was too late for him to go to Africa now. That door was closed. He knew that had been God’s best for him, but he had missed it. All that he could do was to ask God to put the rest of his life to some use. He became a teacher in a Bible School, but could never forget that this was only God’s second-best.

Weiss continues to say, “I have since met numerous people who have borne similar testimony. Usually these testimonies have been bathed, or at least marked, with bitter tears. For while, thank God, He has ways of using even those who have sinned and have gone past that single entrance into the channel of His perfect will, life can never be the way He originally intended it. It is a tragedy to miss the perfect will of God for one’s life. Christian, mark well these words and this testimony lest you too miss His first choice. God, doubtless, will use any life that is submitted to His hands, anywhere along life’s pathway, but let us be among those who have sought and surrendered to His will at the outset of life’s journey, and thus avoid those painful and shameful detours along the way.”

We just cannot live the victorious life or be of maximum use to the Lord, or be a blessing to others in any place we choose. Some may feel that they can choose their own career and their place of residence and then seek to be a witness for the Lord wherever they are. The Lord may in His mercy use such believers in a limited way. But their usefulness in God’s vineyard will be only a fraction of what it could have been had they earnestly sought His plan and remained in the center of His perfect will. Stunted spiritual growth and limited fruitfulness are but the consequences of a careless disregard of God’s laws.

If you have disobeyed God in some matter, turn to Him in repentance now, before it is too late. It may yet be possible for you, as in Jonah’s case, to come back into the mainstream of God’s plan for your life.

Each of us has but one life. Blessed is the man who like Paul, can say at the end of it, that he has finished his God-appointed task (2 Tim. 4:7).

“The world and all its passionate desires will one day disappear. But the man who is following God’s will is part of the Permanent and cannot die” (1 John 2:17-JBP).

“Live life then with a due sense of responsibility, not as men who do not know the meaning and purpose of life, but as those who do. Make the best use of your time, despite all the difficulties of these days. Don’t be vague but firmly grasp what you know to be the will of God” (Eph. 5:15-17-JPB).


1. The Lord Jesus and His apostles taught that man’s greatest honour and privilege is to do the will of God.

2. It is foolish to move into the future on our own when God is waiting to guide us. His plan is the best. If we yield to Him, He can save us from Satan’s snares.

3. It is possible to miss God’s perfect will for our lives through carelessness or disobedience.

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In this ever-increasing age of ungodly TV programs and secular humanist education, what is a Christian parent to do?

Kids hear the gospel of evolution from the classrooms every day and from the TV shows almost all the time. The ways of the world are being instilled in your child, whether you like it or not. There are many do’s for the Christian parent to follow. The best parenting manual is the book of Proverbs. This is the best parenting manual you will ever read.

The following are basic principles taken from the Book of Proverbs and should be followed to insure your home is managed in the proper way:

Proverbs 6:20  “My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother:”

Live a life that is pleasing to the Lord. Love the Lord. Your love for Jesus will put a desire in your child to do the same. Set a good example.

Proverbs 23:26 “My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.”

Children learn behavior from their parents. Children watch their parents. Children repeat what their parents say and do. Children learn how to socialize by engaging in conversations within the family unit.

Tell them about Jesus.  Show them the love of Jesus. Teach them to pray to their Heavenly Father in the mighty name of Jesus.

Teach them about sin and how it displeases the Lord. Tell them about God’s forgiveness. Tell them your testimony and how Jesus saved you from your sins. Tell them about what God has done for you. Tell them how Jesus loves them so very much and how He died for them and rose again.

Plant Bible verses within their hearts every day of their life without making it pushy. Add a verse within conversations. When they complain about a bully at school, you can, within the conversation, quote them the verse that applies to the situation. Teach them about God’s forgiveness.

2Tim 3:15 “And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.”

Instill Biblical values. Children are constantly hearing the world’s point of view. They must be taught God’s point of view. They must feel the love of Jesus from you. Live the life…don’t be a hypocrite.

Pray with them. Pray for their friends and teachers. Pray for the bullies at school.

Teach your children how to effectively pray and when to pray. My mother would tell me; “Pray before you leave the school bus and also before your test. The Lord will help you, sweetheart. The Lord loves you so very much.  I will be praying for you today.” Children need to be taught the Word of God. If they don’t learn Biblical principles from you, they will learn the worldly principles from someone else.

Shut the TV off and do Bible studies together.

Titus 2:12  “Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;”

Eph 5:11  “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.”

When you are displeased with a certain program on TV, explain why the program is wrong. Teach your child to cling to the good and abhor the bad. Teach them the things that displease the Lord and why they should want to do things pleasing in God’s sight.

Discuss at dinner how their day went at school. Listen to their stories.

Notice them. Acknowledge them. Be attentive to their problems and struggles.

If they are pulling away from you and are quiet about their problems, seek them out. Children desire attention and want to feel that they are appreciated and loved. They want to be noticed.

Look in their eyes when you talk with them. Listen to them. Be a good listener. Forget your worries for the moment and concentrate only on them. Notice when they’re acting differently.

Laugh at their jokes. Relate to them. If you cannot relate to them, ask the Lord to teach you how to relate to them so that you can be “cool” in their book.

Respect them and treasure them. They are your gift from the Lord. They are little people with feelings and dreams.

Use your ears more than your mouth. Let them tell you how they feel.

Be flexible when needed.

Be excited when you see them. Get off the phone when your children come home from school. Talk to them instead of your girlfriends when they get home. This gives them assurance that you value them and want to spend time with them. Give them your undivided attention. Be understanding when they have a difficult day. Make suggestions that might better improve their situation. Suggest prayer and pray with them that God will help them to be the best person they can be. Always include yourself in the prayer.

Thank them. Point out what you like about them. Encourage them. Tell them how special they are in God’s eyes.

Tell them how pleased you are of them. Tell them how much you like being with them.

Let them make mistakes. Help them to learn from those mistakes. Ask them what they have learned. Invest your time in them.

Be attentive to them when they’re sick. Pamper them. Let them know that they are loved. Tell them that God loves them so very much and they are so special in God’s eyes.

Proverbs 13:1  “A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.”

When they seek your counsel, set the example and pray with them that the Lord will show you what to do. A child who sees his parent reliant upon God will also follow in the same footsteps.

Proverbs 4:1  “Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.”

Proverbs 19:18 “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.”

Proverbs 22:15  “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”

When they are misbehaving, they must be corrected and/or disciplined. Correction, discipline and understanding go together. You cannot correct a child without explaining, in love, why they are receiving correction and/or discipline. The sarcastic phrase, “because I said so” is not the way to correct your child. It is the phrase of the world but should not be the phrase in the Christian home. Children question such phrases and they do not understand why what they did was wrong. Suggest better behaviors when they act out. Explain why it is displeasing to you so they may better understand why they are being corrected.

Proverbs 29:17 “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”

Deal with problems and conflicts while they are still small. Do not reward a child who is throwing a temper tantrum. If they are screaming and crying, they have to know that this sort of behavior will not be tolerated nor rewarded. They need to know that this sort of behavior displeases you and it displeases God.

Everyday is a training session. Everyday, you give them something they will use for the rest of their lives.

Psalm 103:13 “Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.”

In order to teach them humility, you must show by example. Admit when you make a mistake. Tell them how you should have done things better or explain why it was a mistake. The more you talk to your child about these things, the less they will want to repeat your mistake. They will learn right along with you.

Teach them responsibility. Give them tasks or chores to do around the house.

Teach them accountability. They must stand accountable for their own actions.

Include them in decision-making. Ask their opinions. Welcome their suggestions. If you are buying a house, take them along. Include them in the process so that they will better understand how things work in the real world.

Pray with them before dropping them off at school events. Pray that the Lord will help them to do their very best. Show up at their concerts, games and events. Don’t criticize them if they miss the basket or if they strike out. Praise them when they do well. Encourage them in all that they do. Expect their best; don’t expect perfection. Support them. Compliment them. Give God the glory for the things that they do. Teach them according to Philippians 4:13.

Tell them what you expect of them.

Proverbs 17:6  “Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers.”

Always be truthful and sincere. Integrity is taught to your children by you walking in integrity, as the example.

Proverbs 20:7  “The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”

Be a person of your word. Keep the promises you make.

Know their interests. Take an interest in the things they find important. Clip magazine pictures or articles that interest them.  Share their excitement. Contribute to their collections and hobbies. Join in their adventures.  Meet their friends. Meet their friend’s parents.

Nurture them with good food, good words and good fun. Tell them that they are the wonderful treasure that God has blessed you with. Make time to be with them.

Notice when they grow. Help them mature into fine adults by giving them good biblical instruction. You can better prepare them for life by teaching them godly principles and the more comfortable they will be out in the real world.

Titus 2:4  “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,”

When you drop them off at their friend’s house to play, wave and honk when you drive by them as you leave. Smile and laugh with them.

Teach them manners. Tell them why manners are important. Include them in conversations.  This is very important because children develop their social skills by interacting at home.

Instill truth in them.  Believe what they say. Be rational. NEVER YELL AT THEM FOR TELLING YOU THE TRUTH.  Be understanding. You have to remember, they are being very brave in telling you the awful truth and keep this in mind. Do not discourage them from telling you the truth in the future by yelling and screaming at them. If you do this, they will begin to lie to you to avoid punishment. Instead, pray for understanding. Tell them that you appreciate them fessing up and admitting the truth. Tell them that you are displeased with what they have done but are very pleased in the fact that they told you the truth. Many good parents have said, “If you come to me with the truth, you will not be punished. But if you lie and when I find out about it later, you will be punished. It is better to tell the truth from the very beginning.”

Make sure you let them know that your love for them is unconditional. This they will feel from you by your words but especially by your actions.  Love them no matter what.

1John 3:18  “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.”


We all reap what we sow. Sow the seeds of love and you will reap them.

2Tim 3:16  “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:”

Ask the Lord to help you to be the best godly parent that you can be. The Lord can enable you to teach your children His ways. He will lead them into His paths.

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Sorrow !!! is it medicine for soul? Is it the path to soul ? Is it the uninvited guest ? Or is it the effective devices of nature through which we condition to become humble ?

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Without sorrow I would have never been able to recognize my soul. I wonder if I had no sorrow, then I would have been on the same plane as the other animals. Today sorrow has broken down the greatest barrier in my life, which stood between the physical man and the spiritual potentials. It has broken down my old habits of self-pity, complacency & self-satisfaction. Through sorrow I paved my own path to understand the real me and connect with my soul. Sorrow is closely akin to the emotion of Love – the greatest of all emotions.

We all understand that the emotion  of love when missing in one’s life, they tend to become the Hitlers, Stalin’s, tyrants, maniacs, criminals or perhaps the many other anti-social elements present in our society.

Many people experience sorrow in ill-health, death of near ones, financial loss, unemployment, heart-break, poverty and failures. However, out of the few factors stated above expresses the experience of sorrow. I find the connection of sorrow with poverty softens a person and opens paths to opportunities to embellish riches. Fighting sorrow and remaining in its paradigm, only makes worse for an individual. The spiritual capacity within itself if, understood then the person can go to great heights in life. Knaves never know the emotion of sorrow , for if they knew sorrow they would not be knaves. Evidence of my spiritual qualities were made known to me through sorrow. Although it forced me initially to take introspective inventory of myself, It was the most difficult and yet beneficial part. Eventually I realised to discover the cure for all ills & disappointments. It introduced me to the unseen forces of within to  bring up aid, comfort & equivalent benefits at that given time to experience.

These powers within me were stupendous and within my command. Many of my abilities, skills and talents, I had drowned over the years through mechanical and rational lifestyle, were now brought to surface. These skills, abilities and talents were always there within me all these years but I never allowed them to be realised by my conscious mind. Instead of crying and complaining over my sorrow like most do in their life, I managed to overcome it and use it in better way for myself. I told myself “I am still a driver even if the engine is not on and its time to start the ignition and drive on life’s path”. These refinements of body and mind which nature seems to bring solely by device of sorrow, such as elimination of selfishness, arrogance, vanity and self-love. These certain refinements are necessary. Sorrow, like failure, maybe a blessing or a curse, according to ones reaction to it. I accepted it without resentment and disciplined my messed up lifestyle. The choice is always upon us for that change.

Sorrow always arrives in our life to bring a change, good or bad. It’s always for us to connect with our soul during that period, to refine our thoughts, surface our hidden talents and go for that change. The decision is solely ours, what kind of change we might bring onto our life. Never allow sorrow to become self-pity, as it will only weaken you and change you in negative manner. Someone once told “When sorrow fails the devil takes over”. A persons successes and failures and frustrations are the direct result of the manner in which he used his mind , or neglects to use it.

Sorrow has revealed to the world geniuses who never would hae been recognized except for its deep, soul-searching effects. Once again choice is entirely with the individual. Not even God will abrogate ones privilege of controlling his own mind and directing it to whatever ends he may choose, and no other power can cancel this privilege except by the consent of the individual. Thats why I cherish the most important gift given to me by the Creator “Freewill”.

Sorrow becomes a mighty power for good when it is transmuted into some sort of constructive action or personal reformation. Mt mothers sorrow has been known to cure alcoholism of my father after everything else had failed. I recognised sorrow as a cure for my sins and transformed my life. It let me reveal who I was and opened myself for confession from my pride and humbled me, put me closer to Gods love.

A man without sorrow would be an animal as ferocious as the wildest tiger, and infinitely more dangerous because of his superior intelligence. A man without the capacity for sorrow is nearest thing to a devil in the flesh. Once you learn to properly evaluate sorrow you will recognize its benefits whenever they appear, and you will understand it is one of the more essential devices of the nature with which she separates man from his animalistic background. If you have great capacity for sorrow you have also a great potential capacity for genius, provided you relate in the best possible manner. Every sorrow brings with it the seed of an equivalent happiness. Look for that seed, germinate it & reap the benefits of happiness. I hope all of you who are reading this will no longer permit yourself to be annoyed by so trivial matters of life and will be able to take positive actions from the arrival of sorrow. You will also help someone with greater sorrow to master it once you are able to master it. I am thankful to my wife in a great way as she was the one to teach me how to master sorrow in my own life. I am not sure if she knows that she helped me to do this but when she reads this, she will 🙂 🙂 🙂

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In the same manner as the famous command at the Indianapolis 500 Speedway, “Gentlemen! Start your engines”, I say to you mothers, “Mothers! Prepare your children”!

A Proverbs 31 mother has children who have watched and listened to a great woman – God’s woman. The children have seen you work hard within your very own household!

15: She … giveth meat to her household….

18: … her candle goeth not out by night.

19: She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

21: She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

25: Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26: She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27: She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

The final product of all this work is in verse 28… Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

30: Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. God’s woman has her priorities in the proper order!

31: Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Your works regarding your own children can either praise you!

Proverbs 23:24, 25 … he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. … thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.

Or else they can shame you! Proverbs 29:15b … a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Proverbs 10:1 … a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

Proverbs 15:20 … a foolish man despiseth his mother.

Proverbs 23:22 … despise not thy mother when she is old.

Proverbs 19:26 He that … chaseth away his mother, is a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach.

A Godly mother would not want her son to grow up into a mess!

 A life of crime – A life of wickedness – A life of mistakes – A life without God

Proverbs 20:20 Whoso curseth … his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.

Proverbs 28:24 Whoso robbeth … his mother, and saith, It is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.

Proverbs 30:17 The eye that … despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.

Jeremiah 20:14 Cursed be the day wherein I was born: let not the day wherein my mother bare me be blessed.

We can know from Proverbs 6:20,21 that the mother is the law enforcer around the house. My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. The father establishes the law from the Book – and mom enforces it and dad backs her up as she follows his plan and design (from the Book, of course) with his leadership of the family as a whole. As the kids start out young, mother sees to it that God’s words are bound into their precious little hearts and are tied about their little necks. As they get older, hopefully those words will be bound and tied permanently.

Proverbs 22:6: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

As parents, we should know the importance and value of this Book in regards to our children!

I Timothy 1:9,10 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

We know our children can be blown about by winds of doctrine (Eph 4:14), so we need to bind sound doctrine upon their hearts and tie sound doctrine about their necks! Boys can wear necklaces, but the kind that they should wear is the necklace of sound doctrine, not the jewelry of the world.

Galatians 3:24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.

We lead our children towards the Kingdom of God and help them walk in the Kingdom of Heaven by being obedient to the Book! Their lives will be enriched and strengthened beyond our parenting imagination – and they will be kept from Hell! Proverbs 15:24 The way of life is above to the wise, that he may depart from hell beneath.

Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Mothers, here are a few goals from the Scriptures to help you prepare your children.

1) Prepare them to be born again! You have already been through one delivery and you thought that was hard! Raising your child from birth through their ‘safe’ years and getting them ready for them to realize when they ‘die’ so that they can be born again is no easier than the first birth, amen!

Romans 3:20; Romans 4:8; Romans 4:15; Romans 7:9; John 3:1-7

2) Stand by them during their hard times! When Jesus was on the cross, Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother … John 19:26 Jesus is there for us in the fire, amen – Daniel 3:25, and until these little kids get to know Jesus other than just knowing about Him, mom, you stand in the fire with them and bring Jesus Christ with you!

3) Guide your children to love God more than you and their dad! Matthew 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Getting them to love God means they need to love God’s words more than your words and dad’s words – so to avoid any conflict there, you had better make sure that your words and God’s words are not different.

Matthew 5:37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

I Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

Philemon 6 That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus.

4) Prepare your children for battle! Our children need an understanding of the times, NOW! A good soldier knows his weapon and has practiced with his weapon and will know how to use their weapon in a time of battle. A good Christian knows his sword – his Bible. Like cleaning a rifle with your eyes closed, a good soldier for God should be able to find the right verses in his Bible when needed! I would like to encourage you to help your little children learn how to ‘mark’ their Bible. Throw out those curriculum booklets, etc. and take them to the Book just like we do here as adults.

Our children have a wicked world coming – wickedness that matches Noah’s day. Bible versions have already become commonplace in almost ALL churches! Tongue Speaking already takes place in almost ALL churches! Music has already become a power in almost ALL people! The messages of Unity, Peace and Love has permeated all of society! Politics has gone past corruption .

Will your children be ready?

Will their own book be ready?

Like mom and dad are? or Will they wish they had been better prepared?

Will they wish their book was better prepared?

Like mom and dad wish? or Will they just go along with the system to make a buck – to have a family – to have a career?

Like mom and dad are?

As we try hard to get them ready for the whole armour of God, we must still help them prepare the book that they already have in their hand. “Cursed be he that doeth the work of the LORD deceitfully, and cursed be he that keepeth back his sword from blood.” Jeremiah 48:10

Mom – get their pen/underliners/notes & help them get their sword ready! If you start now, some day, your children will arise up, and call you blessed! … he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. …thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice. Proverbs 23:24, 25

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