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In this ever-increasing age of ungodly TV programs and secular humanist education, what is a Christian parent to do?

Kids hear the gospel of evolution from the classrooms every day and from the TV shows almost all the time. The ways of the world are being instilled in your child, whether you like it or not. There are many do’s for the Christian parent to follow. The best parenting manual is the book of Proverbs. This is the best parenting manual you will ever read.

The following are basic principles taken from the Book of Proverbs and should be followed to insure your home is managed in the proper way:

Proverbs 6:20  “My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother:”

Live a life that is pleasing to the Lord. Love the Lord. Your love for Jesus will put a desire in your child to do the same. Set a good example.

Proverbs 23:26 “My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.”

Children learn behavior from their parents. Children watch their parents. Children repeat what their parents say and do. Children learn how to socialize by engaging in conversations within the family unit.

Tell them about Jesus.  Show them the love of Jesus. Teach them to pray to their Heavenly Father in the mighty name of Jesus.

Teach them about sin and how it displeases the Lord. Tell them about God’s forgiveness. Tell them your testimony and how Jesus saved you from your sins. Tell them about what God has done for you. Tell them how Jesus loves them so very much and how He died for them and rose again.

Plant Bible verses within their hearts every day of their life without making it pushy. Add a verse within conversations. When they complain about a bully at school, you can, within the conversation, quote them the verse that applies to the situation. Teach them about God’s forgiveness.

2Tim 3:15 “And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.”

Instill Biblical values. Children are constantly hearing the world’s point of view. They must be taught God’s point of view. They must feel the love of Jesus from you. Live the life…don’t be a hypocrite.

Pray with them. Pray for their friends and teachers. Pray for the bullies at school.

Teach your children how to effectively pray and when to pray. My mother would tell me; “Pray before you leave the school bus and also before your test. The Lord will help you, sweetheart. The Lord loves you so very much.  I will be praying for you today.” Children need to be taught the Word of God. If they don’t learn Biblical principles from you, they will learn the worldly principles from someone else.

Shut the TV off and do Bible studies together.

Titus 2:12  “Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;”

Eph 5:11  “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.”

When you are displeased with a certain program on TV, explain why the program is wrong. Teach your child to cling to the good and abhor the bad. Teach them the things that displease the Lord and why they should want to do things pleasing in God’s sight.

Discuss at dinner how their day went at school. Listen to their stories.

Notice them. Acknowledge them. Be attentive to their problems and struggles.

If they are pulling away from you and are quiet about their problems, seek them out. Children desire attention and want to feel that they are appreciated and loved. They want to be noticed.

Look in their eyes when you talk with them. Listen to them. Be a good listener. Forget your worries for the moment and concentrate only on them. Notice when they’re acting differently.

Laugh at their jokes. Relate to them. If you cannot relate to them, ask the Lord to teach you how to relate to them so that you can be “cool” in their book.

Respect them and treasure them. They are your gift from the Lord. They are little people with feelings and dreams.

Use your ears more than your mouth. Let them tell you how they feel.

Be flexible when needed.

Be excited when you see them. Get off the phone when your children come home from school. Talk to them instead of your girlfriends when they get home. This gives them assurance that you value them and want to spend time with them. Give them your undivided attention. Be understanding when they have a difficult day. Make suggestions that might better improve their situation. Suggest prayer and pray with them that God will help them to be the best person they can be. Always include yourself in the prayer.

Thank them. Point out what you like about them. Encourage them. Tell them how special they are in God’s eyes.

Tell them how pleased you are of them. Tell them how much you like being with them.

Let them make mistakes. Help them to learn from those mistakes. Ask them what they have learned. Invest your time in them.

Be attentive to them when they’re sick. Pamper them. Let them know that they are loved. Tell them that God loves them so very much and they are so special in God’s eyes.

Proverbs 13:1  “A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.”

When they seek your counsel, set the example and pray with them that the Lord will show you what to do. A child who sees his parent reliant upon God will also follow in the same footsteps.

Proverbs 4:1  “Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.”

Proverbs 19:18 “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.”

Proverbs 22:15  “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”

When they are misbehaving, they must be corrected and/or disciplined. Correction, discipline and understanding go together. You cannot correct a child without explaining, in love, why they are receiving correction and/or discipline. The sarcastic phrase, “because I said so” is not the way to correct your child. It is the phrase of the world but should not be the phrase in the Christian home. Children question such phrases and they do not understand why what they did was wrong. Suggest better behaviors when they act out. Explain why it is displeasing to you so they may better understand why they are being corrected.

Proverbs 29:17 “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”

Deal with problems and conflicts while they are still small. Do not reward a child who is throwing a temper tantrum. If they are screaming and crying, they have to know that this sort of behavior will not be tolerated nor rewarded. They need to know that this sort of behavior displeases you and it displeases God.

Everyday is a training session. Everyday, you give them something they will use for the rest of their lives.

Psalm 103:13 “Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.”

In order to teach them humility, you must show by example. Admit when you make a mistake. Tell them how you should have done things better or explain why it was a mistake. The more you talk to your child about these things, the less they will want to repeat your mistake. They will learn right along with you.

Teach them responsibility. Give them tasks or chores to do around the house.

Teach them accountability. They must stand accountable for their own actions.

Include them in decision-making. Ask their opinions. Welcome their suggestions. If you are buying a house, take them along. Include them in the process so that they will better understand how things work in the real world.

Pray with them before dropping them off at school events. Pray that the Lord will help them to do their very best. Show up at their concerts, games and events. Don’t criticize them if they miss the basket or if they strike out. Praise them when they do well. Encourage them in all that they do. Expect their best; don’t expect perfection. Support them. Compliment them. Give God the glory for the things that they do. Teach them according to Philippians 4:13.

Tell them what you expect of them.

Proverbs 17:6  “Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers.”

Always be truthful and sincere. Integrity is taught to your children by you walking in integrity, as the example.

Proverbs 20:7  “The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”

Be a person of your word. Keep the promises you make.

Know their interests. Take an interest in the things they find important. Clip magazine pictures or articles that interest them.  Share their excitement. Contribute to their collections and hobbies. Join in their adventures.  Meet their friends. Meet their friend’s parents.

Nurture them with good food, good words and good fun. Tell them that they are the wonderful treasure that God has blessed you with. Make time to be with them.

Notice when they grow. Help them mature into fine adults by giving them good biblical instruction. You can better prepare them for life by teaching them godly principles and the more comfortable they will be out in the real world.

Titus 2:4  “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,”

When you drop them off at their friend’s house to play, wave and honk when you drive by them as you leave. Smile and laugh with them.

Teach them manners. Tell them why manners are important. Include them in conversations.  This is very important because children develop their social skills by interacting at home.

Instill truth in them.  Believe what they say. Be rational. NEVER YELL AT THEM FOR TELLING YOU THE TRUTH.  Be understanding. You have to remember, they are being very brave in telling you the awful truth and keep this in mind. Do not discourage them from telling you the truth in the future by yelling and screaming at them. If you do this, they will begin to lie to you to avoid punishment. Instead, pray for understanding. Tell them that you appreciate them fessing up and admitting the truth. Tell them that you are displeased with what they have done but are very pleased in the fact that they told you the truth. Many good parents have said, “If you come to me with the truth, you will not be punished. But if you lie and when I find out about it later, you will be punished. It is better to tell the truth from the very beginning.”

Make sure you let them know that your love for them is unconditional. This they will feel from you by your words but especially by your actions.  Love them no matter what.

1John 3:18  “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.”

Be CONSISTENT. THIS IS THE KEY!!!

We all reap what we sow. Sow the seeds of love and you will reap them.

2Tim 3:16  “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:”

Ask the Lord to help you to be the best godly parent that you can be. The Lord can enable you to teach your children His ways. He will lead them into His paths.

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PROFANITY

When a devout Christian starts his journey of faith, decides to conform himself or herself in the image of Lord Jesus Christ and understands the love of God. It’s necessary that as first steps the follower realises that the most important element that will hinder ones spiritual journey is “Profanity”. The book of James specifically warns us of misuse of tongue. You may wonder why do I identify profanity, it’s because the Bible  warns us of the evil use of language and its improper use. Words convey ideas; they are vehicles of communication. It is, therefore, the idea associated with an expression that can create an evil word pattern. For example when someone uses foul language or speaks to me in a profane way, it only shows that person’s evil pattern toward’s me.

Profanity is used for shock value in expressing anger and humor. The words often are associated with sexuality and filth. Names of the Deity are used to bring additional potency and irreverence to the expressions. It is worth noting in our politically correct culture that the blasphemous use of the names of God and Jesus Christ are not regarded as “hate speech.” The New Testament also commands believers to be pure in speech by controlling their tongues: “With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men who are made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things should not be this way” (James 3:9-10). Christians should honor the purpose of speech by using our mouths to praise God and leading others to obey the Lord through faith in Jesus Christ. Every word we speak should be “gracious” and “seasoned with salt” (Col. 4:6). We should always ask, “What would Jesus say?”

“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to You, LORD, my rock and my Redeemer” (Psalm 19:14).

2 Timothy 2:16 “But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.”

The Word of God, reminds us to flee those worldly lusts and greediness to obtain material wealth, and instead to seek and follow after those Spiritual Treasures which are able to make you Rich in Christ Jesus our Lord! and we are also reminded to shun “profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.” It’s important that we not only refuse to take part in such things as ungodly and useless babbling, any speaking that is without thought or without self-control in fact, but we also should shun such things! We should look down upon it, speak against it, not to listen to the other person who speaks profane to us and show from the Word of God that it is not edifying to the hearer, but instead is the opposite: increasing unto more ungodliness! We have to remember that our words originate from our hearts, as our Lord says in Matthew 12:34 “O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” So we must remember to watch our words and guard against such ungodly or even unprofitable speaking! Remembering always that every word we speak, is recorded and will be made known, and we will have to give account of them all in the day of judgment: Matthew 12:36 “But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.” Guarding our words and watching what we say is equal to guarding our hearts against ungodliness, and watching what we introduce into our hearts!

Our words are not meaningless nor are they powerless to change those who speak them and those who hear them. As it is said in James 3:3-6 “Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.” Though our mouths seeming small compared to the other members of the body, and though the words seem small compared to our other actions, they are by no means small in what it produces! If we speak ill things toward others, or toward ourselves, such will defile our bodies. If we speak good things of others, or of ourselves (not boasting, just speaking in a godly manner), we will strengthen and enrich our lives!

For these reasons, we are told in those verses, to shun profane and vain babblings. We most certainly should refrain from profane babblings, and shun them when they are present in others! That which is profane, is evil and ungodly. We must keep from, and rebuke, that which is said in an ungodly manner. Whatever may be said out of spite or with a lack of love, we must rebuke. Whatever may be said to harm another, or to make others view another in a poor light (excluding our speaking the Truth, though this should still be done lovingly and in a way meant to help: “This man is a blasphemer!” say also, “Be careful and don’t follow his words or actions, but follow God’s Truth!” even, “Don’t be around him often, you don’t want him to rub off on you!”). All things which are ungodly, or are spoken unloving, should be rebuked! Those things which are ungodly, clearly should be shunned and not be named among us. And speech, though it may seem a harmless thing, should also be rebuked because Truly it is like a fire that will increase unto MORE ungodliness within those who hear it, and those who speak it!

We are also told in those above verses, to shun VAIN babbling! This means our words should not be just spoken without thinking. We shouldn’t babble on and on about such fickle and worthless things! As I’ve heard it said, speech is a blessing from God, if we’ve been given it, why waste it? We should seek to not speak empty and vain words, but rather let us speak whatever we speak, to the edification of whomever hears us. Let us speak words, that whomever may hear our words, will be helped, and not walk away with nothing! As said in Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” We mustn’t babble, most definitely we mustn’t do so without thought. We have to think before we speak, even pray before we speak! If we can’t think of something nice to say, then as the saying goes, don’t say anything at all. Instead we should wait and listen . . .We should wait for that which is good and edifying to the hearer to come to us, before we speak! As we are told in James 1:19 “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” Let us be more willing to listen, than speak. And when we do speak, let’s speak so that the person hearing us, walks away having gained something good.

Now, this doesn’t mean we should hesitate when speaking the Word of God. For the Word of God is good, and should readily be spoken. Always remember though, that when we do speak the Word of God, pray beforehand, that your words are wise, and well-said!

In all this, we must remember to not only keep it from our own lives, but we are to shun profane and vain babblings. They will only amount to more ungodliness!

The Scriptures speak of “filthy” talking (Eph. 5:4). According to Greek authorities (see Baur, Danker, Arndt, Gingrich, Greek-English Lexicon, Chicago: University of Chicago, 2000, p. 29), the term “filthy” (aischrotes) entails “behavior that flouts social and moral standards, shamefulness, obscenity” while “shameful speech” (aischrologia – Col. 3:8) denotes “speech of a kind that is generally considered in poor taste, obscene speech, dirty talk.”
“Lascivious” speech (cf. 2 Pet. 2:18) is that designed to conjure up illicit sexual images and ideas. “Corrupt” (morally unwholesome, harmful) communication (Eph. 4:29) is likewise condemned. “Foolish (literally moronic) talking” is speech that reveals a stupid mind, while “jesting” suggests off-color humor (cf. Eph. 5:4).
What is rather disconcerting is the fact that some professed “Christians” vigorously defend the use of filthy language in books and movies under the guise of artistic license; they contend that opposition to such is “anti-intellectual”
The Greek word bebeloo is twice rendered “profane” in the New Testament (see Mt. 12:5; Acts 24:6). It is defined as “to cause something highly revered to become identified with the commonplace, violate sanctity, desecrate, profane” (Danker, 173). Surely it is not difficult to conclude that this category of irreverence is perpetuated in many common expressions today. And it hardly minimizes the transgression to euphonize the use of sacred names by disguising the format – as in, “Good gosh!,” “Golly!” and the like. An unabridged dictionary will reveal the derivation of these terms to those who have sufficient interest in their vocabulary.
The Christian must strive to keep his speech pure, such as facilitates edifying (Col. 4:6). One must try to refrain from the vulgar, the irreverent, and the reviling abuse of language that is unbecoming to the spiritual person.


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In the same manner as the famous command at the Indianapolis 500 Speedway, “Gentlemen! Start your engines”, I say to you mothers, “Mothers! Prepare your children”!

A Proverbs 31 mother has children who have watched and listened to a great woman – God’s woman. The children have seen you work hard within your very own household!

15: She … giveth meat to her household….

18: … her candle goeth not out by night.

19: She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

21: She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

25: Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26: She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27: She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

The final product of all this work is in verse 28… Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

30: Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. God’s woman has her priorities in the proper order!

31: Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Your works regarding your own children can either praise you!

Proverbs 23:24, 25 … he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. … thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.

Or else they can shame you! Proverbs 29:15b … a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Proverbs 10:1 … a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

Proverbs 15:20 … a foolish man despiseth his mother.

Proverbs 23:22 … despise not thy mother when she is old.

Proverbs 19:26 He that … chaseth away his mother, is a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach.

A Godly mother would not want her son to grow up into a mess!

 A life of crime – A life of wickedness – A life of mistakes – A life without God

Proverbs 20:20 Whoso curseth … his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.

Proverbs 28:24 Whoso robbeth … his mother, and saith, It is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.

Proverbs 30:17 The eye that … despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.

Jeremiah 20:14 Cursed be the day wherein I was born: let not the day wherein my mother bare me be blessed.

We can know from Proverbs 6:20,21 that the mother is the law enforcer around the house. My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. The father establishes the law from the Book – and mom enforces it and dad backs her up as she follows his plan and design (from the Book, of course) with his leadership of the family as a whole. As the kids start out young, mother sees to it that God’s words are bound into their precious little hearts and are tied about their little necks. As they get older, hopefully those words will be bound and tied permanently.

Proverbs 22:6: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

As parents, we should know the importance and value of this Book in regards to our children!

I Timothy 1:9,10 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

We know our children can be blown about by winds of doctrine (Eph 4:14), so we need to bind sound doctrine upon their hearts and tie sound doctrine about their necks! Boys can wear necklaces, but the kind that they should wear is the necklace of sound doctrine, not the jewelry of the world.

Galatians 3:24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.

We lead our children towards the Kingdom of God and help them walk in the Kingdom of Heaven by being obedient to the Book! Their lives will be enriched and strengthened beyond our parenting imagination – and they will be kept from Hell! Proverbs 15:24 The way of life is above to the wise, that he may depart from hell beneath.

Proverbs 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Mothers, here are a few goals from the Scriptures to help you prepare your children.

1) Prepare them to be born again! You have already been through one delivery and you thought that was hard! Raising your child from birth through their ‘safe’ years and getting them ready for them to realize when they ‘die’ so that they can be born again is no easier than the first birth, amen!

Romans 3:20; Romans 4:8; Romans 4:15; Romans 7:9; John 3:1-7

2) Stand by them during their hard times! When Jesus was on the cross, Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother … John 19:26 Jesus is there for us in the fire, amen – Daniel 3:25, and until these little kids get to know Jesus other than just knowing about Him, mom, you stand in the fire with them and bring Jesus Christ with you!

3) Guide your children to love God more than you and their dad! Matthew 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Getting them to love God means they need to love God’s words more than your words and dad’s words – so to avoid any conflict there, you had better make sure that your words and God’s words are not different.

Matthew 5:37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

I Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.

Philemon 6 That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus.

4) Prepare your children for battle! Our children need an understanding of the times, NOW! A good soldier knows his weapon and has practiced with his weapon and will know how to use their weapon in a time of battle. A good Christian knows his sword – his Bible. Like cleaning a rifle with your eyes closed, a good soldier for God should be able to find the right verses in his Bible when needed! I would like to encourage you to help your little children learn how to ‘mark’ their Bible. Throw out those curriculum booklets, etc. and take them to the Book just like we do here as adults.

Our children have a wicked world coming – wickedness that matches Noah’s day. Bible versions have already become commonplace in almost ALL churches! Tongue Speaking already takes place in almost ALL churches! Music has already become a power in almost ALL people! The messages of Unity, Peace and Love has permeated all of society! Politics has gone past corruption .

Will your children be ready?

Will their own book be ready?

Like mom and dad are? or Will they wish they had been better prepared?

Will they wish their book was better prepared?

Like mom and dad wish? or Will they just go along with the system to make a buck – to have a family – to have a career?

Like mom and dad are?

As we try hard to get them ready for the whole armour of God, we must still help them prepare the book that they already have in their hand. “Cursed be he that doeth the work of the LORD deceitfully, and cursed be he that keepeth back his sword from blood.” Jeremiah 48:10

Mom – get their pen/underliners/notes & help them get their sword ready! If you start now, some day, your children will arise up, and call you blessed! … he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. …thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice. Proverbs 23:24, 25

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Our Father 47

I am not much of a Catholic and I do visit different denominations of various Christian churches, congregation around the world.

However, I was astonished with a strange and unhealthy observation at our local Roman Catholic Church. I had reached the mass late, so I decided not to get the front seats in order to avoid any distractions to people sitting in the front rows. So I opted to take the last row seats. There was a group of teenage boys and girls in the last row, seated nearby me. They were not interested in the service of mass and were busy passing comments on other people in the church. These teenagers were also busy passing on some songs from each others mobile phones via Bluetooth. I wonder if they were told that a church was the right place for recreation time.

I was angry and I wanted to rebuke them, but then I thought that I just need to see what’s worse going to happen.

Then the moment came when the priest said “Lets pray the Lords prayer which he taught us in his own words”. That was the Lord Jesus Christ’s prayer to God the father, “Our Father who art in heaven…” Alarmingly these teenagers were making mockery of the Lords prayer and they prayed OUR FATHER 47…….and the words got worse, I really don’t intend to write here, and thereafter what happened between those teenagers and myself is also not worth writing here.

I wonder why do teenagers behave and disrespect God, Is it because of the society, fashion, movies, Television, or is it just because their parents are too selfish to teach them real meaning of life and love for God or interest in Faith.

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When babies die

What happens to the souls of aborted babies?  If the answer is they go straight to heaven, does this not make infanticide the greatest form of evangelism ever discovered and Dr. George Tiller one of the greatest evangelists of all time?
Although the scriptures do not speak to this hypothesis, are these souls possibly born in the Millennial reign of Jesus?  Such an assertion would logically suggest the same for all children that die before the age of accountability and the mentally incapacitated.

Both the Old and New Testaments make it clear that from the moment of conception until the age of accountability, children belong to God. In Romans 7:9 Paul said that he was alive apart from the Law until the commandment came, when sin sprang to life and he died.  Since he lived for many more years, it’s obvious he was talking about the spiritual death that comes upon reaching the age when we’re held accountable for our sins.  After that we must make the choice to be born again in order to remain in God’s family and avoid the penalty for our sins.
Aborted babies are just like other children who die before the age of accountability.  They belong to the Lord.  At the Rapture they’ll receive resurrection bodies and will dwell in the New Jerusalem as part of the Church.
Dr. Tiller repeatedly and with malice aforethought violated the commandment against taking an innocent life.  Although the result was beneficial for the victims, Dr. Tiller is accountable for their lives  (Genesis 9:6) unless before his death he sought forgiveness.

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Kids become MTV roadies

 

We are indeed becoming a country influenced by west. I was browsing through the TV channels when I came across the MTV Roadies selection. Although I don’t watch TV much, but that minute while I was on this channel I seen something extremely strange character of the Roadies show. There were three MTV VJs who were interviewing the prospective participants for the show. One participant was asked to walk like a dog on his hands and legs, go outside the studio and bite five persons. The participant was given a choice if he doesn’t want to do it, then its ok they shall give him a different task. Fearing that the interviewers would eliminate him, the participant agreed to do so, because he was that desperate to be on the Roadies show. It was very humiliating and embarrassing as even for the sake of fun, I don’t think that a sane person would do that.

The next participant was a female, she was in her late teens, she was asked something about her mother, what does she feel about her. The female replied “Oh! These mothers and father are very irritating and very imposing”. Then she was also proudly showing a knife cut mark on her wrist that she had because she wanted to commit suicide, reason, she was angry with her dad. The interviewers asked her a last question how many boyfriends she had this year, she was trying to recollect and count on her fingers and then she came up with a figure, she said “Maybe seven but I think more than that, not sure”. When asked when did she have her first boyfriend? She replied “I had my first boyfriend at the age of 13 and ever since I have forgotten the count, can’t remember all of them and I guess I lost my virginity at 13 or 14 something like that”.

 

Now I am not upset on those kids, who portray themselves in such a filthy manner on a national TV. Perhaps I am only disgusted the way their parents have raised them and I am totally upset by the manner those parents have taken care of their kids.

 

I am not even trying to imagine what’s the future going to be like for those kids , who have lost track with morality. Somewhere into their minds the media, movies and television has played a very destroying role. They have been nurtured in sinful thinking and sinful was of life. I don’t compare Humans with animals as , one can understand they are animals, but off course, animals live on instincts and natural pattern. Animals have been living in that pattern from the beginning of time, not us.

 

Parents can either spare the rod and destroy their kids or do the other way and guide their kids to a better future.

 

 

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Our kids in mad mad world

It was after 12 years that I decided to leave Middle East and come back to India to change my career path. Perhaps what better chance I could get then to put my experience, knowledge, years of training for the development of children in the colony where my parents reside. I had conducted many training programs and also I was faculty at the Higher Colleges of Technology in Dubai, creating an urge in the Arab students to be better businessmen and better individuals. My success rate had been touching 100% in the Middle East. But things weren’t the same in India.

I thought I could influence children to be better individuals and also have a great Godly life. Tragically Indian kids live in a world TV, movies, video games, cell phones and rock music. Their attention span is not longer than a TV commercial, their ability to speak clearly is lost, and their ability of speaking one proper language is also a painful effort. They have a hard time translating thoughts into words and the manners of sitting without uncontrolled movements is also a curse, all they need is some tuition teachers or adults to control their behavior.

Concerning sex education, it was painfully clear that there was nothing I could do for these kids, as they know more than me. How do you convince a girl not to date boys when her own mother goes out on dates? You and I know that she is too young to think about such things, but the fact is, by 6th grade these kids’ minds are set into the pattern created by the mass media. It made me realize that you really have to focus on protecting your kids from a very young age and arm them with knowledge.

The kids on the path of Faith need to be like horses with blinkers as there are possibilities’ that they might get trapped in the influence of their ill-mannered classmates. Similarly if the kids are too much on the direction of Faith then they face hostility and are ridiculed by their friends and classmates. Although these kids might find difficult to adapt to the social understandings or even discern the facts of the external world and get criticized badly. Parents fail to understand that their kids are going to learn everything from school but from all the external anti-social elements. We have to tell them that they are persons of value who deserve to be respected and cherished and to enjoy happy and healthy relationships. Many children never hear these words from their parents so they seek affection and positive encouragement elsewhere. Most kids chase after boyfriends or girlfriends because the media tells them this is how you find happiness. Parents really need to walk the middle line between saying too much and not saying enough.

Young kids don’t need  the “details” of how babies are made but they do need to be told at a young age, for example, which parts of their body are off limits, even to family members, and the child should be made to promise to report any violations even if done in jest. Since they are giggling about boys as early as first grade, girls need to be advised well in advance that their lives will be miserable if they fall in love with boys before they are old enough to get married. They need to know the rules of clothing. They need to be instructed never to be alone in a room with a boy. Their brother should go with them if they are visiting the neighbor kids or cousins. You really can’t be under-prepared.

A kid needs to understand that they need to be chaste until their marriage and how to respect the instructions of their own parents. However, parents need to convince and make their kids understand in the best & simplest of manner as it makes sense to the kids within the context what their peers are speaking to them about the world. Looking at online teen discussions it seems clear that there is a group of kids who have zero self esteem and are actively striving to crash their lives because they have no guidance other than the desire to be “cool” – while there is another group of kids who are actively striving to be responsible. When I was a kid there were no kids striving to be responsible in matters of chastity. If anyone was religiously motivated they would be treated like a mentally ill person and no one would be their friend.

We live in a country of choices and a life of choices; we have to be with our kids throughout their journey when they reach their adulthood and so that our kids are making correct choices. The path of destruction is wider than the path of self-esteem & righteousness. It’s our responsibility as a Parent to inform, spank, love and guide our kids to the future what they deserve rather then just blame them for their follies. While I walk in a mall with my kid and she asks me to buy her play station or a star wars gun and I can simply buy that PS or that star wars gun and let her be happy for what I have done. Or I have a choice of just saying “No”, maybe my kid would be upset for sometime but will be normal after few minutes. I can buy her that PS or that Star wars gun to fulfill the Lust, I won’t do that but since I LOVE MY KID I will not buy her those toys. There could be parents around who just go on a sphere of buying PS, Video games, stupid toys, motorcycles’ or allow them to date at a young age , just to show that they are very liberal with their kids , but I tell you that you are absolutely wrong . all I got to say is your are selfish and only love your self. Because you purchased that foolish toy just to get rid of your kid nagging you the whole time.,

So stop being selfish and fulfilling your kids lustful desires but I say Love them and say no when required and your kids shall become responsible individuals.

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