When we are at our peak of success or gaining success on the ladder of success, we seldom have real friends around us. Many people shall become our friends with a mask of prejudice and we blindly believe them and these people win our trust. However, businessperson, professionals, employees, artists and others should know that when to keep distance with new friends while on the road to success.
Jealousy is the first reason that these new friends will try to ruin everything for us behind our back. It’s always better to guard our tongue and not to divulge much professional or personal information with these new friends. They will do everything to get to know us, by initially revealing their own personal matters, so that in return we might also share our piece of personal information. Its better that we always keep our personal and professional information discreet from them.
Jealousy as per me is a very special form of emotional anxiety, which occurs due to lack of security and mostly would combine components of anger and fear resulting to hatred. I would not exclude envy as a part of jealousy these are like the branches of the same tree when it comes to have grudge about someone else more powerful, successful and happy than oneself.
Many successful people have a natural defense in keeping themselves discreet and at distance than others and therefore, most are always focused on their on career path and don’t get distracted with affairs and scandals created by the jealous people around. Apparently, some people on the successful path develop new friends and develop new problems. It only requires one mistake to ruin ones success path and get back to square one.
I asked one of the successful businessman in India, “What was his key to success and maintaining it, in this competitive world?”. He replied to me ” I don’t meet new people and don’t make friends with them, my relation is purely professional with them and point to point, I don’t discuss religion, politics, or any other common topics of discussion, I keep my discussions short, sweet, with smiles and try to conclude it as soon as possible”.
I met with this same person after 5 years in India and he was more successful and had wider smile on his face as compared to first time I saw him. I asked him again the same question. “What makes you maintain your success and climb higher ? ” and he replied to me ” I don’t make new friends, only new business associates and don’t discuss anything which is off topic and never divulge my personal information with them, my associates know that I am short on time when I meet them so they try to quickly make their point and get things done as they don’t want to miss the deals with me. My family members are my best friends, I give lots of time to my wife, mother, children and not to TV or internet.”
I thought that this businessman makes real sense and we should be short and sweet in our talks, especially when we are at the peak or on our success ladder. The haters would just want to know our weak points or try to do everything to annoy us and make an error. Therefore, why not guard ourselves and be above all like the eagle in the sky.