I was watching a news channel and I came across a program which was named “Singled Out”, this program was about individuals who were divorced, having live in relationship or totally single. To my utter disbelief I was surprised to see a news channel broadcasting such program in glory. The presenter of this program was delighted by the point of view of the individuals whom she was interviewing. Some were celebrities and some professionals. The replies of the people being interviewed were looked upon very compassionately. There was continuous sympathy and understanding presented by the presenter towards the guests on the show. I could clearly see that what the guests on the show wanted to express or what their point of view was that, its better not to get married to one person, but rather search for the opposite sex persons who were perfect for them. In the process of searching a perfect person these guests have had many relationships, break ups, immorality, fulfilled their sexual urge without being committed to one fixed individual. One of the guest on the show a former VJ said that “ she doesn’t feel that she requires a man, but its only in the evening from 9pm to midnight she gets this Maya Attacks ( Its her own term when she has a physical desire for a man ). The presenter of that show applauded that term and said that if the VJ had fulfilled such desires. The VJ further added that spiritual & sexual desires can happen at the same time and she considers both as same or vice versa. I am not sure what kind of Faith that VJ is following or maybe not, but its sad to know that maybe somewhere her parents were watching that show on TV and I don’t know if they feel disgusted about their daughter or happy or maybe given up on her. Another guest a very popular model and daughter of a Film personality said “ I love being me, its better to be alone without a spouse and she enjoys every part of her singlehood without being committed to one”. Both the VJ and the model felt that when they are single they are like innocent, not confused or complicated of getting understood or trying to understand the opposite sex, they just love that they a not being mature. Then the next guest who is a Customer Service Manager at a Multinational firm said “I am 39years and still single, I am searching for that Mr. Right to come in my life. The reason that I didn’t get married is that I can’t be a 9 to 5 woman and then come home for my husband to rule me later part of the day. Now I am a professional having nice job, I too have friends, need to go out for movies, Malls, Pubs with them, so I will find it difficult to hook on to a husband”. I am not sure that if all the working woman have a similar issues and I am sure that there still a high percentage of working woman who are also happily married trying to get both ends meet in busy city life. I am amazed of what has happened to our world and in which direction we are heading. The essence of woman or the substance of woman has been lost and marriage is being looked upon by some as a curse. Its only matter of time when in future marriages will be not so important to have relationship, people will have many affairs before they are even 30.
I disagree with many novels and books written about marriage that it’s the perfect relationship or trying to make a perfect relationship out of each other. Lets look at the Biblical point of view of marriage, you are not aware marriage has been mentioned over 500 times in the Bible and the book teaches lots about this relationship in marriage. I wonder how many Christians have really found those explanations in Bible, alas not to often Christians read the Bible.
Gen. 2:18, 21-24 The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him’…and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
We see in the above passage that the first occasion after creation on the planet was marriage. God intends that we all should have our life partners, our companions, our soul mates and our intimacy.
The New Testament adds a warning regarding this oneness. “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mathew 19:6). There are several epistles written by the apostle Paul that refer to marriage and how believers are to operate within the marriage relationship. One such passage is 1 Corinthians chapter 7, and another is Ephesians 5:22-33.
When studied together, these two passages provide biblical principles that form a framework for a God-pleasing marriage relationship. The Ephesians passage is especially profound in reference to a successful biblical marriage.
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior” (Ephesians 5:22-23). ”
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church” (Ephesians 5:28-29).
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31).
The Holiness of Marriage is starting to get diminished and people are getting influenced by Devil through media, magazines, movies, tele-serials and many other things happening in our society. There is never a reason that one should only wait for that Mr. Right or Ms. Beautiful. You got to understand that a man or woman will have a strengths and we need to be proud about those strengths in our spouses and simultaneously a man or woman will have weaknesses and that’s doesn’t mean that due to those weaknesses we avoid getting married and term marriage as dangerous collaboration. I always felt that if my wife was weak in certain areas I would give my right arm for her not be weak and I know even my wife would do the same for me, so what are the weaknesses we are scared of. Because the great purpose of God in our lives is to conform us in the image of Jesus Christ. Now when we speak about the image of Jesus, what do we speak about , is it the wrath of Jesus, NO! We speak about the unconditional love , mercy and his grace. So when God has set us up to the image of Jesus why do we not have the same unconditional Love, mercy & grace for our spouses? In the New Testament love is not something, but LOVE IS THE THING. Even I am not the perfect catch either so I don’t think that I should only find the weakness and bang my head on the wall saying “why did I get married”. I know and I have heard many saying those words about their marriage.
God wants us to be like Jesus and the primary way is through marriage